Classically there’s transference and counter-transference and all the “stuff” that goes along with that. While avoiding those words I review some thoughts on how to name and keep the differentiation between ourselves and our clients when we are getting entrained, entranced or otherwise overly connected to our client’s experience.
Our most treasured question in SE is probably the classic: “What do you notice now?” This Open question preserves autonomy and empowerment for our clients as they can answer anything they like, including the dreaded “I don’t know.” At those times, realizing that there are different ways to ask questions can help practitioners keep things from
Outside the confines of the penetrating gaze is another reliable and uniquely intelligent way of seeing, one where subtle shifts of shadow and form stand out from the noise. The use of peripheral vision in SE sessions is often a learned practice and something worth exploring. It’ll help us see the more subtle postural, micro and preparatory
There’s so much interesting stuff to learn swirling around SE and the new traumatology. Sometimes we want to grab it all at once. Sometimes we need to pace out our studies. Here’s a little cheerleading for my fellow learners along the way.
There are times that we need to speak quickly, right off the top of our heads. This is especially true in sessions when people are running headlong into harm with their narrative and we’re trying to identify, name or reflect the “blue vortex” elements or resources as they pass by. Practicing with moving our mouths